Tuesday, September 6, 2016

Gay Dating

Six months ago, I would have never felt comfortable enough to even consider going on a dinner date with a guy. I'm proud to say those days are over. I owe a significant chunk of my growth to a few of my coworkers who have been there for me when it comes to offering dating advice. I am so very thankful for them being in this chapter of my life.

I met a guy off Tinder last week who's struck my interest. He's a horse trainer. Yep, you read that right. Definitely an interesting job, one in which I know nothing about. I've been on a horse once in my life, when I was like six-years-old to pose for a photo. I need to find that picture, I probably look tense as fuck haha

He and I clearly live two very different lives...but opposites attract, right? We talked on the app for about a week, before swapping phone numbers.


 
Of course I read the last few texts to my coworkers and we were all laughing hysterically and trying to decipher what he meant by it. Hopefully we're able to finalize plans and meet up this week, because he seems cool and he's really handsome. A fellow Italian boy :)
 



 
I may or may not have mistaken that donkey for a baby horse, which he quickly called me out on haha Please tell me I'm not the only one who thinks that donkey resembles a pony...with just very large ears!
 
If he and I do grab dinner, I hope the date goes well and there's no awkwardness. Furthermore, one aspect of going on dates that makes me really uncomfortable, is when the check comes. I do not like when someone pays for me and I honestly don't have the money at the moment to pay for someone else. I know it's a very kind gesture when someone insists of paying, but can we just split the check, PLEASE?
 
All I want is a guy who'll whisper "let's go halfsies on the dinner bill" into my ear, is that too much to ask for?
 
Don't even get me started on first kisses. I can't even give hugs when I'm uncomfortable without stepping on their toes, let alone think about going in for a kiss. Baby steps, no pun intended.
 
Regardless of how great or awful this potential date goes, at least I'll have a story to tell you guys!
 
Much Love

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    1. Thank you! I still have so much more progress to make, but I'm moving in the right direction. I hope you're doing well!

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  2. That's so exciting! Where do you keep finding these beautiful men? Maybe I should move to Florida too. Here are some of my tips with some of your questions:

    - Relax! The whole point of a date is just to get to know him better. Don't go in expecting anything to happen, just think of it as meeting a new friend.
    - It's totally OK to initiate going dutch! This is what I've done on every first date I've been on with another guy and it's not a big deal. No offense to him, but if he works at a zoo, he's probably not rolling in money either (my sister used to work at a zoo).
    - You may not have to make the first move if you want to kiss him, just give him some signs that you're attracted to him. Body language, touching his arms and/or thighs, lots of smiling, maybe give him a mischievous look a few times. He'll get that you're interested and return the gestures if he's interested too. Then at some point, one of you just go in for the kill! You're overthinking it haha. If you're too nervous, you can always ask if you can kiss him, I think it's a cute gesture.

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    1. Thank you so much for checking out my blog and leaving this insightful comment Mr. Anonymous! I really appreciate the feedback.

      I'm getting lucky finding these handsome fellas on Tinder! We have beautiful men and zika here.

      I feel like the more dates I go on (whether it be with him or other guys), the easier it'll become and more relaxed I'll get. Viewing him as simply meeting a new friend definitely helps put things in perspective and puts me more at ease. A friend that I want to hook up with haha

      I'm relieved to hear that you split the bill on all your first dates. I'm sure it's a pretty common thing, especially within the gay community. He doesn't work at a zoo, he was just visiting one for the day when he text me that. He works as a show horse trainer.

      Even touching his arm or leg would make me nervous haha But that's fine, because I'm totally content if we only hugged on the first date. But if the date does go really well and there's obvious chemistry, you better believe I'm going to be smiling and throwing him that mischievous look.

      I'm just going to go with the flow and be myself!

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    2. You're welcome. I read your blog every time you update it, even if I don't comment!

      Ahhh...Zika, the small price to pay for attractive men. Although I won't be having kids, I doubt it's worth it. Maybe I should look into the NW instead haha.

      The friends thing works for me at least. The beginning and middle of my dates are usually very friendly, then it reaches a point where you're both silent for a moment and you just exchange a look of "damn I want you". That's the point where you know you're doing well and your wish may come true haha.

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    3. Thank you for actively following my adventures!

      Haha I would definitely check out the NW first, ain't no one got time for zika.

      I know exactly what you're talking about. About a half hour into the date, we reached a point where we were both silent;y eating and exchanged a look...but instead of "damn I want you", it was "damn I want to leave".

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  3. Interesting post! I am also gay guy and recently trying to find best partner at a Gay Social Network. I have just started using that app and trust me dear there are multiple options that I can select from. I hope I will find my dream man quite soon.

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