Monday, June 20, 2011

How To Meet Gay Guys

They have perfect teeth

I'm ready to start meeting other gay people. But that's the problem. How do I do it? I'm not into the gay club/bar scene and creating a profile on a dating website is sketchy. Of the two, I think the website is a better choice. I go to bars and clubs so seldom anyways and it's usually to dance with friends.

At least a dating website would allow me to be as selective as I want. The convenience is a plus too. It's basically like window shopping. On the contrary, you can never truly know a person by reading a 1000 word bio and some hobbies. It starts to get exhausting when you're talking to multiple guys at a time and I feel like I could be utilizing my time doing something more productive.

I tried the LGBT center on campus, as well as an LGBT group counseling session, but I didn't really mesh with any of the people there, except one of the lesbians.

Seriously, how do gay guys meet each other? I'll be out and see an attractive guy and have no idea if he's gay or not. Wondering if he's gay or not is always the first question I ask. This probably explains my love for people watching. I'm SO SHY around cute guys though. If I make eye contact, I can't help but look away. I don't want to come across as being weird.

Wednesday, June 8, 2011

Virginity and Sex Talk

I think I'm scared to have sex. I don't know how to explain it. Obviously I'm old enough to be having sex, but I don't feel ready. I need your help. I want everyone's opinion on this topic and what it was like for you when you lost your virginity. Its super scary for me and any type of insight would be extremely appreciated.

Q #1 Are one night stands and random hookups fun/worth it? Or is it worth the wait to lose it with a boyfriend?

Q#2 Or should I wait until marriage? That's a really long time though. The Bible says to wait.

Q#3 What impact does sex for the first time have on the mind?

Q#4 How do you know if you're a top or a bottom?

Q#5 How bad does it hurt when you bottom for the first time? How much lube do you have to use?

Q#6 Do you cum after 10 seconds the first few times you have sex?

I just want my first time to be something meaningful and enjoyable for me and the other guy.

Thursday, June 2, 2011


I'm one of the unfortunate individuals out there. My face gets punished for no reason and it sucks. I am susceptible to horrible acne. There is NOTHING fun about it. It hurts like hell, it’s embarrassing, and they scar your face.

I started noticing break outs the end of my freshman year of college. Prior to that, my face was crystal clear. My brother and sister had acne as well, so I just thought I got lucky with the ‘clean face’ genes. Oh boy was I wrong! I’m just a late bloomer.

Out of nowhere, there was a crazy infestation of zits on my face. I was horrified. They didn't arise gradually, they came in swarms. Last summer my acne got so out of control, that I had to stop using normal face washes and see a Dermatologist. He prescribed me three different things to take.
  1. A special face wash I had to use morning and night
  2. A gel I had to put on before I went to bed and
  3. An oral pill to take each morning.
It was such a scam, my acne didn’t clear up at all. It was literally EXACTLY the same after a month. I went back to his office and the doctor reclined me back in the chair. I thought he was just going to examine my acne...until I see a giant needle from the corner of my eye. I looked at him like he grew three heads, as he pointed it directly at my face and said "this is going to sting". What happened next was one of the most painful two minutes of my life. I had a death grip on the sides of that chair.

He injected all 35 of my white heads with a cortisone needle. It was so painful. I wanted to get up and deck the guy in the face for not asking for my permission to do it. He had to bring in a female assistant to apply pressure on every pimple he stabbed, because of the amount of blood and puss oozing out of each one. It was disgusting.

After that visit, I told my mom I never wanted to go back. Plus, his little needle trick didn’t cure my acne. I was getting desperate and then remembered that my brother and sister used Proactiv on their skin which cleared their acne up, so I ordered it.

Proactiv literally feels like it's burning your skin when you apply their products. My face has made some improvements since using it, but I would NEVER want to use this stuff permanently! It took several months of using their three step kit to see results. A word of caution, once you start using Proactiv, expect your face to become red and irritated. Your face is going to hate you for putting such strong chemicals on it.

After about six months or so of using Proactiv, my face only had a few white heads. I always felt like I was on the verge of breaking out though. My face adapted to the products and it was just acting as a Band-Aid to my acne and not actually killing it at the source. As soon as I stopped using Proactiv twice-a-day (religiously), I would break out immediately. That's how they play the game and keep getting your money though. If they actually sold you a product that worked, they wouldn't have return customers. They offer a renewing subscription for a reason. I've been to several Dermatologists and they wouldn't prescribe Accutane. I need to look into more Holistic ways to fight acne because putting all these chemicals on my face can't be good for my skin.