Wednesday, January 12, 2011

The People's Choice: Question #1

Q: Now that the comfort is there, are you ready to start dating? If not, what's holding you back? You deserve some love of a different sort.

A: I am not ready to start dating yet! You know, sometimes I think to myself and wonder how many relationships I would have been in if I was straight. It seems like all my friends have been in at least one long-term relationship. I used to get jealous and envied seeing that affection, until I realized I need to fully love myself before I dare step out into the world of dating.

I need to continue to focus on myself for now. Like I mentioned in my last post, I want to get involved in different activities and continue to learn about myself and what I enjoy. I've come a long way, but I still have some unfinished business to take care of. Until I am at the level I know I need to be at, it wouldn’t be fair for me, nor to the other person, to begin a relationship. I just don't feel emotionally ready yet.

I guess the lingering question is how long it’s going to take me to feel ready to going on dates and meet guys. Only time will tell...

Thanks for the question fan of casey!!


  1. Dont worry about finding love. as soon as your not thinking about it your gonna get slapped in the face with love. out of the blue when you least expect it. Theres no age a person should be ready for love...when it happens it happens.

  2. i agree completely! but i wouldnt mind having a friend in person to talk too and hang with on the reg. i feel like it would be fun.

  3. AGD: I too wished for that classic romantic meeting, that it would happen when the stars aligned, and we would live happily ever after. But I'm still waiting and there are times that I think my moment has passed me by.

    You are young, you've got time to wait but you will have to actively pursue dating than just waiting for it to fall in your lap. Your friends can be your best champions so when you are ready, let them know so they can recommend a nice guy for you. After all that suffering growing up, you deserve many chances at happiness.

  4. Chris Pack- dang man I really hope everything falls into place as nicely as you said it. (Hopefully I dont literally get slapped in the face bc I'd probably beat the dude up) lol

    Thanks socrkid, it feels good someone else agrees with my mentality! lol
    I agree, having a gay friend in person would be alot of fun! Come transfer to my school haha

  5. AGD: I spoke too soon, looks like you already have someone in mind. So yeah, that's a great idea, get socrkid to transfer to your school. You two already have the seeds of a great connection. :-)

  6. Never give up searching FoC! You seem like a great guy filled with wisdom and I'm sure you will find the right guy one day.

    I guess you're right. I've definitly learned that you have to work hard to earn happiness and relationships sorta go hand in hand. Like you said, waiting for things to fall in my lap wont help me much. When the time comes when I feel ready, I will definitly be needing yalls advice!

  7. Loving urslf is the most important thing in dating....with ppl slapping rejections left n right for all the weird reasons, you gotta love urslf to realize tht a rejection isn't a set-back and u apply urslf again!

    Wenevr it happens...i hope it goes great fr u, AGD! :)

  8. You are so mature for your age, I wish I was like you back then. Oh and thanks for the message, we should chat online or something sometime. I agree with your take on dating and am trying to apply it

  9. Phunk Factor-Thanks for the helpful tips! Thats the primary reason why I have no interest in dating. I need to continue building myself up so if those rejections do in fact come, I can just brush them off and learn from them instead of blaming myself or whatnot.
    Thanks alot, I hope so too! :)

    Discreet Bi- Aww thanks man. Trust me, I can be pretty freaking immature if I'm around the right people but this is definitly a serious topic so you see my mature side 9 times out of 10. No problem man, I would love to chat. I am seriously the worlds worst emailer but I will do my best to keep in contact!